Nothing is more awkward than prolonged lulls in conversation, but dont just blurt out anything to break the silence. Sometimes, its hard to tell just what is acceptable to say. Its easy to offend a girl; you might be offending one right now. Take an observation like Asian babies are cute. Though race inclusive, it will generally be accepted, and more often than not agreed with, leading to further conversation. Say Asian girls are the cutest, however, and your girlfriend will gets all pissed at you. Even if shes Asian. Thats the weird part. She was all for baby racism a minute ago.
Male/female relations are chock-full of double standards. For instance, every girl I know has a story about going out with her girlfriends that goes somewhere along these lines: …Then I drank four coolers and totally made out with Jen on the dance floor. Isnt that weird? Now here is where the double standard comes in. If I go out for the night with a group of my buddies, and were all drinking on the dance floor, Jen wont make out with me. Seriously, Jen, whats your problem? You make out with goddamn everyone else.
Its the little things that count. Hold doors and pull out chairs, but dont be all Don Juan about it. A lady wants a guy who has been brought up right, not a try-hard who spends the night looking for opportunities to ingratiate himself to her. Be on guard; just dont get caught with your pants down. Say excuse me, put your napkin in your lap, and before the movie starts, make sure your cell phone isnt set to ring. Thats always embarrassing.
Having unprotected sex with a new partner is a lot like gambling. In that my girlfriend hates when I gamble. Be safe.
Dealing with Shyness
I remember being so shy in high school that I couldnt approach a girl, let alone get a date. Today, my swinging single life is outrageous. I was awake last night, a Monday night, mind you, until 5 a.m. Just crying. My main point is, dont be shy, its a real deal-breaker.